As the saying goes...

No matter how hard we all try to escape it sometimes, society reels us back in. Distortions, expectations, overly enhanced models with not so overly enhanced bank accounts are beginning to make the rest of us feel...well, not-so-enhanced. The pressures of age and friends and marraige and sex and babies...don't even get me started on babies, can all start to wear on even the most level headed folks out there. I think I have a very mixed bag when it comes to friends at all stages of life and relationships which has provided me with some great resources, at times entertainment and most of all learning experience by way of knowledge, tips and tricks to get me through my own ordeal. What is it really that puts pressure on us to move forward into and out of relationships? We can blame it on society (I have quite a few bones to pick with ours), history or even our parents...but when it comes down to it, it's pressure put on ourselves from...ourselves. A lot of people struggle internally with being a better version of themselves. With feeling "enough" or "worthy". This creates a school of thought that you will only reach the enough or feel the worthy if you have certain things: marraige and kids by 40, white picket fence (are fences still all the rage?) and maybe a golden retriever and a cat for shits and giggles. What if there are those of us out there who do want those things, but are approaching or passing the age in which the expectation lies? What then? What happens after? Life after expectations...is it bliss? Do we move past the horrid attraction to online dating (gasp-eek! I said it "outloud") or do we succumb to it? The distinterest in all things organic between people has become such a problem that many singles do fall victim to the match/plentyoffish/chemistry/jdate/supercalifragilousdexpealidocious of dating sites. Now when I say fall victim to the sites, thats not entirely true. Many people choose to place themselves on there with the hope that somewhere out there is their counterpart doing the same and are subject to countless reminders that it isn't infact the case. It's become so easy to type up a profile that people send messages the equivalent of a pinch of the ass at a dirty biker bar. Even those of us who put effort into it (why, don't ask me) and explain what we definitely don't want, even if we don't know what we do want? We get crap. We get "whatchu doin 2nite" (spelling as received) or "u.r.sexy". Really? Did you just read (can you read) where I stated I have zero interest in flingy casual you're-not-realy-single-but-say-you-are types? Guess not. Why not just put a picture up of some T&A? You'd probably get the same sort of response!The lengths to which some singles are prepared to reach grow longer with each passing day. Why isn't it ok to not be matched up with people constantly or not be the 'single friend'? Can't we all just be who we are and meet people face to face by passing eachother in the produce aisle or pumping gas at the same time? Why? We're all too busy, in too much of a rush, on too much Facebook, to notice that the one we've been looking for, just drove on by. As the saying goes, "Good things come to those who wait." What about those of us who reach out and grab those good things by the cojones, pull them kicking and screaming towards us and work it out? That wouldn't be good...it'd be great.